The 3 year anniversary...

So it's been 3 years since I was fired from my job.  So much has happened since then and so many things are still happening but I wish to reflect on this day.

Working in a hostile environment is akin to being in boarding school, as I would imagine it.  There is so much going on in your life but just as every teacher acts as their class is your only class so does each conflict at work become 'the only thing' that is happening to you.  Problems with your personal relationship? Irrelevant because you have to deal with the depression from your work environment.  Having issues paying the bills because you have lost so much pay between suspensions and increased medical bills? Well, leave that behind because you have to deal with working through your symptoms and trying to meet this goal that is unattainable without your accommodation.  Basically all of your problems become moot because your teacher expects that the only problems you have are the ones they assigned.

#ThisIsWhyWeCan'tHaveNiceThings

So I have been doing a lot of thinking and drafting and frustrated [metaphorical] tossing of paper into the bin.  I keep coming back to this one idea: The individual gets blamed for the sins of the [insert any larger entity here].
I have examples! Bare with me, this will not be easy. lol I will attempt not to rant.
A legal policy [tax/regulation/whatever] is meant to help/address X, the business/corporation/other governed group reacts by placing a negative consequence onto customers/employees/group of others/etc. and the VOTER gets the blame.
An employee is denied their rights/human dignity, and during the employee's attempts to have their rights honored, the employer penalizes other employees [removal of rights/priveledges, increased caseloads while trying to remove victim from employment, other alterations in the attitude/conditions of the workplace] and it is the victim who suffers the score and scrutiny of the office - often involving harassing conditions, hostile work environment, and out-right abuse but it is the VICTIM who gets the blame.
Child/Adult X is different and requires an alternate experience interacting with their world but is within a larger entity [school, business, care facility, etc.] that does not respect [or choose to even recognize an established difference] but it is the Child/Parent of Child / Adult/Caregiver who is ostricised and/or abused for the incompetance of the people in power/charge/etc.
I find this so frustrating because people complain about injustices yet appear blind to the injustices they commit.  I had to listen to a coworker [who created a hostile work environment for me] lament about her uncle being harassed at work for his medical problem.  Honestly, no idea how I kept my mouth shut.  She even adjusted how she addressed a coworker who is still there and was having a conflict with management over a medical issue but I was still unworthy of even the professionalism of civil, basic office interactions during the time I was still there.
I look at a world full of people who lie by omission with every simple yes-or-no answer, who bend their description/recollection of events to satisfy their adgenda, and who manipulate with wording and am absolutely flabbergasted at the fact that I [a paladin if ever there was one, I ask the cashier at the restraunt if I may take a toothpick/mint] am labeled a liar/manipulator by people who fail to know/understand/care-enough-to-be-bothered-with-the-fact that I work differently.  I do not perceive, describe, interact or engage with the world using the same filter as the majority of people out there.
If you take the time to give any biggeldy-pucks at all and actually get to know me, you would understand.
But that is the other thing: Once the larger group has written a person off, there is no social benefit to showing understanding/acceptance so [individuals within the larger group] just stop showing it.
Sheeple, this is how the holocost happened.  This is where genecide starts.  Did you not actually understand the lessons behind the history classes you were subjected to or did your history teacher(s) fail to point out the "behind-the-scenes" of the horrors of histoy?  Do you still think Columbus sailed to the United States, shook hands, and began a symbiotic and beneficial relationship with the Native Americans?
Sigh.

Retrospect on a Hiatus

So I have been away from social media for the past few weeks dealing with court and other personal matters.  I have been searching information on discrimination law suits and reading about outcomes and other fact-based information.  I have also been reading through the comments sections that are always found at the bottom of internet articles.

The internet is a wonderful place to share ideas, talk about what bothers us, and vent our frustrations.  The internet is also a dark place filled with ignorant ideas and snippets that may look good or sound snazzy but which one would not dare to let fall from their lips around their "In Real Life" acquaintances.  Or possibly a platform for us to listen to the outbursts from individuals who cause their own family and friends to shake their heads and offer apologetic looks when those outbursts have been expressed in their company.

I know that there are people out there who are greedy, misguided, ignorant, or looking for an "easy way out" and decide that claiming a disability and attempting a lawsuit is appropriate for them when their situation clearly dictates otherwise.  I know that this causes unfavorable opinions upon anybody who claims a disability and files a complaint or lawsuit.  I know that people say very ignorant things on the internet because that is why the internet exists.  While I am reading those ignorant things, my anger is usually placed on the people who attempt to scam the system.  My fear that this process will be fruitless has grown steadily larger and I wonder what I will do if my claims are not taken seriously.  My goal is not to receive a large sum of money, but to be able to go back to work, be successful in my career field, and not exist in a hostile and demeaning environment.

At the same time I wonder how I would ever be able to go back now, after years of being made the fool and earning the contempt of my coworkers.  Years of having managers who talk about me negatively with other employees, punish the employees who associate with me, and get other employees to lie about their experiences.  I look at how many of these cases are lost or deemed 'frivolous' and wonder how many of them have been fighting a stacked deck?  When you can take and employee who has previously messed up and given them a chance to redeem themselves by lying under oath or when you just do not have enough proof...  It is not as though any of the individuals who threaten or harass you are going to admit to it and whose word gets heeded?

Then at the end of the day you have the average tax payer who sees these law suits as a cost they ultimately pay and the payout as their hard-earned money.  I am not so naive that I do not understand that a business's expenses are paid by its consumers nor do I believe that legal fees and settlement money grow on trees.

I think the most frustrating part of this whole ordeal is that I do not want to sue, I do not want to go to court, I did not, initially, want or need money from my company...  I just wanted a simple, free, easy accommodation which was in line with the privileges afforded to my coworkers.  I wanted my demerits removed from my file and I wanted a good reference if I decided to go to a different firm.  That was never going to happen.  Who would hire an employee who was fired with a number of demerits?  How do I obtain employment on-par with my previous employment or in my career path?  I have monthly bills and an education to pay for... I am a good worker, smart, friendly, and kind.  However, I currently cannot get a job comparable to where I worked.  I have lost wages from that company for suspensions and other unpaid leave.  I have suffered and experienced pain from working there and dealing with the different things I bore while there.

I also have experienced lost wages since I cannot obtain comparable employment.

I get so frustrated because I have seen so many people who struggle under discrimination [or just under managers who are complete douche bags] but do not fight it either because they feel it is better not to [something I do not entirely disagree with] or because they tried and lost and are now even worse off.

It is hard to be where I am, it is hard to be suing an employer, but it is also hard to be that employee who suffers while everyone watches and makes their opinions.  Everyone seems to think that since management is not changing anything or supporting the employee that means that the employee is in the wrong and a problem.  It is easier to turn your back on one uncooperative employee than to try and understand or stand up for an individual who needs assistance.  I understand that there are worthless people who attempt to take advantage of the system, but I also know that there are good people who are kept from getting ahead or succeeding because managers are people too.  People are flawed and make mistakes.

When a company will not follow the law and chooses to degrade one individual till they are gone instead of spending far less time, effort, and money helping that one individual succeed, what in the world is that person supposed to do to put their life back together?

The whole situation is biggeldy-puck and so the answer is probably equally biggeldy-puck.  Does not make it right, but maybe it levels it out just a bit.  If someone is mad because they have to 'foot the bill' the target should not be the individual who is suing, but instead the company/manager who created the situation that resulted in a suit.

The stresses of struggling within a broken system

As I'm rounding out year four of being subject to "the system", I've had a lot of time to reflect over past actions, current consequences, and possible future outcomes.

I'm not so crass as to imply that I rate status with Robert Burgdorf or Crystal Lee Sutton *1 - however I feel that while the world is not fair, it should be just *2.  I look back at what I have dealt with and realize that, yes, there was an easier road; I just wouldn't have been able to look myself in the mirror every morning.  Never-the-less it has been a trying four years with at least two more ahead of me.  I'm tired, disheartened, and - unfortunatly - now lack belief in the systems designed to protect the average person [let alone the "special needs" individual]. 

There are many others, who are legitimately trampled on by a system which is broken, and many do not fight back because they have seen the fall of those who do.  Or maybe it is because they know they need to keep paying for that roof over their head or that food on the table.  This does not make them weak or stupid anymore than my fighting makes me strong or smart - or really vice-versa.  Sometimes I look back and wonder if I really made the right choice. 

I started fighting for my rights under the ADA so that I could maintain stable employment which would allow me to live on my own and care for myself.  I also wanted to avoid disciplinary actions based on difficulty working the same as everyone else because of my "diffability." [No, I do not have a strange speech impediment I just borrowed this from Ollibean]  I didn't really do either of those.  I do not write this to support a fight for what is right or to condone those who do not - I merely seek to reflect on what I have been through/am going through and take a deeper look at the broken system and why it is broken.
My hypothesis is that people with "invisible" disabilities are easier for employers to let [or intentionally force] "slip through the cracks" and ultimately mistreat the most *3.

Lack of understanding or knowledge [and sometimes the subsequent stupidity] leads to friction with coworkers and management (read as harassment) instead of support.  This friction complicates things by making it more-likely that attempts made to appeal to the next supervisory level fall upon the ears of people who have already been influenced by the opinions of people who, quite frankly, have no idea what they're talking about.  It also makes it harder to connect and maintain connections with other coworkers.

It doesn't get any easier when you struggle for your rights, only to find that none of the entities put in place to protect those rights can work efficiently or even with any weight behind their decisions (when the decision is in your favor).  My posts labeled as "Ms.Management" will address some of these issues.  Unfortunately, due to the nature of what I'm going through, some of the specifics (agencies, etc.) will not be detailed and some posts may be more general until a later date.  Even so, I hope these posts may eventually serve to be a source of encouragement, information, and possibly just to let others know that they are not alone in this struggle.